He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know | 
| Author: Jessica Valenti
Publisher: Seal Press
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ISBN: 1580052452
Dewey Decimal Number: 305.420973
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Double standards are nothing new. Women deal with them every day. Take the common truism that women who sleep around are sluts while men are studs. Why is it that men grow distinguished and sexily gray as they age while women just get saggy and haggard? Have you ever wondered how a young woman is supposed to both virginal and provocatively enticing at the same time? Isn’t it unfair that working moms are labeled “bad” for focusing on their careers while we shake our heads in disbelief when we hear about the occasional stay-at-home dad?
In 50 Double Standards Every Woman Should Know, Jessica Valenti, author of Full Frontal Feminism, calls out the double standards that affect every woman. Whether Jessica is pointing out the wage earning discrepancies between men and women or revealing all of the places that women still aren’t equal to their male counterparts—be it in the workplace, courtroom, bedroom, or home—she maintains her signature wittily sarcastic tone. With sass, humor, and in-your-face facts, this book informs and equips women with the tools they need to combat sexist comments, topple ridiculous stereotypes (girls aren’t good at math?), and end the promotion of lame double standards.
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 Tough to hear but an incredibly necessary book July 4, 2008
0 out of 1 found this review helpful
Sexists will cringe at this clear, powerful book of not-all-together obvious double standards. While women and men are biologically different, they should never be subjected to different standards of treatment. Commentators who raise the issue of the sexes' physiological differences idiotically miss the whole point: differences should not lead to double standards and worse treatment. An excellent book. Women: please don't stop complaining about discrimination.
 Male bashing at its most infantile level June 13, 2008
5 out of 34 found this review helpful
As a previous reviewer alluded to - men and women are biologically different. The sexual act will always have different significance for male and female and will always be interpreted and judged differently. It is a fundamental truth of anthropology that societies and their moral codes (or systems of behaviour), both animal and human, are built and structured around the competing sexual mating strategies of the males and females. If an act is likely to have differing consequences for men and women, it is not double standards to judge it differently according to gender.
The book assumes that it is the men 'with all the power' who are determining those 'double standards'. Actually it is women who accuse other women who sleep around or dress provocatively of being sluts far more than men do. Go to youtube and type in 'sexy dance' and read the vicious comments that the females make and compare them to the flattering comments made by the men.
To be fair, the author almost seems able to grasp an intelligent point when discussing the double standard of sensitive men being called sissies, but tries to turn even that into a self-pitying rant against the male. Unfortunately, it was women who would gleefully daub the houses of the disabled men and the conscientous objectors during the first world war with yellow paint. It is the grotesque sexual fetishisation of male aggression that is feeding the increasingly animalistic and violent urban culture of our young males and that in my once peaceful city of London is resulting in teenage boys being killed on a near daily basis.
I'm sure I could list a greater number of sexual double standards that work out far more in favour of women than men. A male teacher who has sex with a female pupil is a child molestor who has defiled the girl and deserves a life time of hell in prison. A female teacher who has sex with a male pupil is a 'Sexy Mrs' who has initiated the young man into the world of sex and there is media outrage if she recieves the same jail sentence as a male would. Third world prostitution is a stick feminists use to beat the original sin out of Western men, naturally remaining silent to the thousands of wealthy white women who flock to the Carribean islands to exploit and abuse the poverty stricken 'rent-a-rasta' black male prostitutes (hell there was even a romantic chick flick made about it recently). I could go on - even the supposed double standard of the book's title is rather anachronistic. Women who sleep around are now sexually liberated women whereas promiscuous men are 'users' and sexual predators at risk from false date rape allegations.
Feminism is a backward moral faith clearly obsessed with sex and the female virginity cult far more than the most primitive pagan fertility religion ever was. At least when males invent moral codes they do so looking up at the stars. When feminists make moral pronouncements they seem unable to look up from their wombs. This trashy and nasty little book shows just how absurd they can be when discussing sexual morality.
 Yeahh... May 26, 2008
4 out of 10 found this review helpful
It's alright... reminds me of her other book; Full Frontal Feminism. If you've got that, don't bother reading this.
Spot the prejudice May 24, 2008
3 out of 56 found this review helpful
How is it that otherwise intelligent people cannot see the underlying biological truth which gives rise to the attitude rather crudely expressed in the book title.
Few things can be more frightful than unwittingly devoting your life, your emotions and your financial resources to the upbringing of a child who you mistakenly believe to have your blood in its veins.
Can you see any asymmetry between the genders here? However promiscuous a man is, he cannot put a woman in this position. Every man walks a precipice.
Some results from scandinavia suggest that one child in four is being brought up by a man who mistakenly believes he is the father.
DNA can provide an answer, but guess what ? In most western democracies the father cannot legally administer a DNA paternity test without the MOTHERS PERMISSION !
So you see, at least one of the "double standards" is based on a huge biological imbalance of how vulnerable each gender is to a desperately dreadful outcome from the promiscuity of the other.
REALLY good stuff! May 22, 2008
17 out of 19 found this review helpful
I'm not being sarcastic at all--I'm a male reader, and I found this book to be REALLY insightful stuff. I also found double-standard #51: that these are double standards that WOMEN should know. Shouldn't men know these too? I mean, I'm trying to raise my two sons with better insights than the blueprint for sexist privilege they are being handed to them every darned DAY, and I want them to see past it. So right there in the title--BAM!--another unintended double-standard. This stuff's just as integral for men to consider.
Jessica Valenti's writing style is snappy, fun to read, and yet very good at disturbing the reader with insights that are dead-on but easily overlooked in our culture. I've followed the feministing website (which Jessica Valenti contributes to) for some time now, and I am constantly fascinated by the sheer amount of research and information that they find. I'm also disheartened by how often her work is dismissed as "thought police" or "hysteria"--but then, that's exactly what she's getting at in this book: male privilege allows (us) men to mouth off on TV, talk radio, and pretty much every other form of media about OUR interests, but women who do the same are labeled "guy bashing" or worse, simply for acting like actually free people. Books like this one are powerful documentaries about that dynamic, which is taken for granted to the point that those who call it out are usually personally scolded for it. All the more reason why Valenti's contribution is integral.
Oh, this is really interesting, to Jessica personally: you know that part where you mentioned seeing your childhood tormentor, Eleena, talking about her own issues on TV? As amazing as this is, I know EXACTLY who you are talking about. I wonder, do you see her on-screen confessional as a sign of hope, or head-smacking "Jeez, how can she not even get this?"
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