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Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage | 
| Author: Jenny Block Publisher: Seal Press Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating: 14 reviews Sales Rank: 13244
Media: Hardcover Number Of Items: 1 Pages: 280 Shipping Weight (lbs): 1.2 Dimensions (in): 9.1 x 6.4 x 1.1
ISBN: 158005241X Dewey Decimal Number: 306.84 EAN: 9781580052412 ASIN: 158005241X
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Product Description
Jenny Block is your average girl next door, a suburban wife and mother for whom married life never felt quite right. She operates from the assumption that most couples who are curious about or engaged in open marriages are in fact more like her—normal people who question whether monogamy is right for them; good people who love their spouses but want variation; capable parents who are not deviant just because they choose to be honest about their desires.
In Open, Block paints a down to earth picture of how an open marriage can work, and specifically why it works for her and her husband. In dissecting other people’s strong reactions to her choice, she explores the question of why cheating is more socially acceptable than open marriage. In part, she concludes, the lack of models for successful functional open marriages is such that the general public is not yet equipped to handle treating it as anything other than abnormal.
Open challenges our notions of what traditional marriage looks like, and presents one woman’s journey down an uncertain path that ultimately proves that open marriage is a viable option, and one that’s in fact better for some couples than conventional marriage.
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GREAT BOOK- I AM NOT ALONE!! July 18, 2008 1 out of 1 found this review helpful
If you are married and have ever entertained thoughts of being with others, I urge you to read this book. For years I struggled with these longings to spend time with other men besides my husband. I have a great life, 2 great kids, a nice home. Why do I have these feelings? I was sure something was horribly wrong with me. Finding Open,Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marraige, by Jenny Block made everything crystal clear to me. I discovered, the terrific news, that nothing is wrong with me! I am a normal and healthy human being. I am no longer ashamed of my feelings, I now understand them. This book is a quick and easy read. I finished it in 3 days. My husband now has better insight into my feelings. Our marriage is now beginning to take a new direction. A healthy, open and honest direction. Because of this book. we are having our cake and eating it too, we've not been this happy in sometime. Thank you Jenny for writing about something few care to discuss, or even admit. I am forever grateful to you.
Open - a revelation July 14, 2008 1 out of 1 found this review helpful
I am a bisexual woman AND married. I told my husband on our first date that I liked girls. Didn't matter to him and he did not suggest adding 'friends' to our marriage. We were married 5 years before I felt something was missing. We decided that we were going to stay together; but if one of us met someone, we would figure it out then. It's been 6 years and I've had a few 'friends'. When I tell others about how we live, they are surprised but supportive. I never knew our relationship was 'normal'. I came across "Open" in a blurb from "Glamour". Curious, I bought it and am in the process of reading it. INCREDIBLE is what comes to mind. Jenny's book has allowed me to be proud of who I am and how I live. I am glad she had the courage to write about her journey.
Discusses a taboo subject honestly. June 23, 2008 2 out of 3 found this review helpful
Jenny Block has guts. She discusses a subject that I believe many people are curious about but hesitant to discuss because they are afraid of what will be thought about them. She has put her life and reputation on the line to tell her thoughts and feelings about what she has done to make herself happy. I think she has done the polyamorous community a big favor. At times the narrative may be misconstrued as a bit preachy and "meme" leaning. But, that is necessary. Ms. Block is sharing HER experiences and HER ideas. In doing what she has done, Ms. Block has maintained a stable, loving marriage and home life for she and her husband's young daughter. But, she has an additional partner who fulfills another part of her life that she needs to be truly happy. What is wrong with that?
Open Marriage June 16, 2008 3 out of 16 found this review helpful
I purchased this book because I was trying to understand why a person cannot be happy with just one partner...Wasnt too impressed with this book...she doesnt go into the depth of how her actions really probably hurt a lot of people around her and although I can understand fully her conclusions that monogamy does not exist, I think she is trying to justify her reasons for her actions. I find it hard to believe that open marriage is a healthy environment.
What Courage! A Fascinating Look at Mainstream Polyamory June 8, 2008 8 out of 8 found this review helpful
This book is a revelation. It is a memoir of the author's life as a mainstream bisexual woman who, try as she might, couldn't find the kind of fairytale fulfillment promised by traditional marriage. She has a supportive husband and a young daughter who are the center of her life, as they should be. But still, there were issues in her marriage, the biggest one being that she and her husband have different needs in terms of frequency of lovemaking. She'd had relationships with women before marriage. She thought she could do without them when she decided to do what everyone thinks they are supposed to do and get married. Despite giving the traditional suburban wife and mother role a solid effort, it left her feeling so dissatisfied that something had to change or her marriage wouldn't survive. There is no book on polyamory and open relationships like this one. It takes tremendous courage for a mainstream woman to publicly lay her heart and soul bare as the author has here. She openly shares with us her most intimate thought processes and desires through every stage of her adult life, beginning with her experiences exploring her sexuality in college, up to and including details of her and her husband's challenges and experiences opening their marriage. I especially enjoyed the husband's afterword. The author is smart for including his perspective in his words to correct misperceptions that her husband and daughter are the innocent victims in all this. The husband makes it clear that he is a co-partner in this adventure, even though partnering with others is not as high a priority for him as it is for his wife.
Another of this book's strengths is the author's point of view on how multi-partnering while raising her daughter is a good thing. It's pretty clear that she and her husband are good parents to begin with and that every decision they've made has been made with their daughter's best interests in mind. This author has a gift for eloquently articulating the issues and intricacies with which non-monogamists grapple. She cites a variety of sources to support her point of view. She also uses the word "polyamory" to describe her marriage and relationships, especially later in the book when her sexually open marriage naturally transitions to make room for love and romance with more than one. This book may well play a pivotal role in the mainstreaming of polyamory. It has gained the attention in three mainstream women's magazines. The June 2008 issues of Redbook, Marie Claire and Glamour all have interviews or shorter Q&A's with the author about her book and life. It is available on the non-fiction new release tables at Barnes & Noble and Borders. There is nothing more mainstream than that.
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